Monday, August 31, 2009

What if You Are Shy? Does Toastmasters Work?

I am naturally a fairly reserved person-- quite introverted (meaning, my expert friend told me, that I have lots of internal stuff going on and too much external stuff coming in can be 'overload')and I think I could describe myself as "shy" in many situations. As I have gotten older, I find that it is becoming easier to let go of some of the "false" personality traits, such as a kind of forced gregariousness that I used to wear at parties in my youth. My mother was a 'talker'-- in fact, she was one of those people who could talk non-stop for hours. I am not. I like a good conversation, but mostly I enjoy listening. However, many times in my life it has been important for me to summon up my confidence and get up and speak in front of others. Doing some acting at school was helpful (I was told I was quite good, which built my confidence) but as a middle-aged adult, joining Toastmasters and using the energy psychology or meridian tapping technique called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) was VERY helpful in allowing me to present in front of groups (or even just to 'speak up' in group situations about things I felt strongly about). The video clip that follows shows EFT Master Sandy Radomski talking about how even she had to overcome a fear of public speaking.

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